Monday, 18 May 2020

October 7th - 9th 2019


October 7th 2019

I was woke early with a phone call telling me that the hospital were definitely going to operate and to get to the hospital as soon as I could.

I spoke with a consultant from ICU, he told me about the operation and why Martin needed it. The cause of the stroke I was told was due to a clot forming in his carotid artery, and then shifted and travelled into his brain which then caused the stroke, it had happened overnight and no chance for early medication to make a difference.  The right side of his brain had been injured which affected his left sided mobility, and if he survived his speech should recover but not his mobility.  It was stressed that the operation was to save life, as his brain was swelling and the more it swelled the more of his brain would become damaged, and if it swelled onto the brain stem he would die.  He told us that being young was not an advantage to him, the brain shrinks as you get old leaving more space to allow for swelling, in a younger person there is no space to allow for swelling.   So he went to theatre to have a craniectomy.

This is when I finally called Jamie my eldest who was at uni, I had been putting it off until I knew exactly what was going on as didn’t want him worrying on his own without family there.  I had told him someone would come and pick him up if he wanted to come home.  He didn’t wait for anyone to come and pick him up though, he got the train.  Though he’d have been home sooner had he let someone come and get him.  

It was around 4 hours till I seen Martin and got news of his operation, it had gone as it should, he was now on a ventilator to do his breathing for him to give him plenty of rest.  He was critical but stable and they would monitor and decide when to remove the ventilator the following day.  Stayed until visiting was over and went to collect Jamie from the train station before attempting sleep.


October 8th 2019

Martin had a ‘stable and comfortable night’.   He came round from the sedation and the ventilator removed and was breathing well on his own.  Everything was going to plan, and he was answering questions by squeezing hands as he was so tired, he squeezed the nurses hand at one point and didn’t let go, I told him to stop flirting so he squeezed tighter with a smile on his face, absolute cheek.  He then squeezed my hand, so tight though that I had to ask him to stop, again he was smiling.  I had to keep holding his right hand as he kept trying to pick at the dressing on his head from the operation.  The older 3 kids came to visit and spoke briefly with him, under 14’s are not allowed in ICU, so Taran couldn’t visit.  Not the best place for a child really as there were many patients on ventilators.  Again we stayed until visiting was over and I went home, the kids still stayed at my parents, it was as good a day as we could have hoped for and we were all really positive, hoping now that the worst case scenario was going be no mobility on his left side and long term stay at hospital for physical therapy. 


October 9th 2019

I called the ward first thing to see how Martin had been overnight, I was told he had a stable night, but they did have to put a splint on his right hand as he managed to peel off his dressing, and he had managed to say please and thank you to the nurse.  I drove to the hospital for visiting times, and when I got there I was told he had taken a turn for the worse, the swelling on his brain had not stopped, so more of his brain was being damaged and they needed to put him back into an induced coma on the ventilator to give his body complete rest. Later on when the nurse was doing her observations, I could see in her face that something was very wrong, one of his pupils was fixed and dilated and it was today that I was told to prepare for the worst, I felt like I had been kicked by a horse, I couldn’t breathe, I wanted to be sick but I hadn’t eaten for the last couple of days.  One moment there was hope, then it was gone.  Accommodation on site was arranged for me so I was nearby if the worst happened overnight.

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